Twin Flame Love Won't Look How You Expect It To

A few days ago, I met with a potential client and got to hear her story.

She had met her Twin Flame over a decade ago - but she was already married with another kid on the way. Nothing ended up happening between them because he didn't really do anything to prove he wanted to be with her, and she couldn't get out of her head about what's right and wrong.

She ended up moving out of the country with her family and left her Twin Flame behind - but could never fully get him out of her head.

A decade later, they got back in touch. But now her Twin Flame is married, with kids. And she is still in her marriage.

They tried to see if they could get something to work, but they keep ending up in the same cycles:

• blocking on and off

• feeling like he isn't doing anything to show he loves her or wants to be with her

• things getting in the way of seeing each other

  
  

  ... and it feels like it just wont align.

The kicker is her Twin Flame told her that if she would have told him she wanted to be with him or made the decision, he would have been all in the first time. And even now, he wants her in his life and is willing to figure it out.

What gives?

It's about the fear that comes when you are expecting love to show up a certain way - and it does everything but.

The thing is, her sharing her story had a message in it for me, too.

We all have been taught a very specific way that love is supposed to show up in life, like:

• being single, childless, financially secure and have a life that's perfect

• huge proclamations of love ('I love you,' gifts, dates, commitment, proposals, engagements, marriage)

• receiving provisions (money, financial or material support, engagement rings)

• some level roles to prove worthiness of them and worthiness of ourselves (because without it, it's not a good or socially acceptable relationship)

These are huge blocks on the Twin Flame connection because this is mostly coming from human programming and conditional love.

I'll be honest, your soul doesn't care if it gets a wedding ring.

But your inner child might if your father was absent, you weren't asked to prom, or don't believe people love you if you aren't given gifts because people missed out on your birthday.

I can honestly say that I fell into the same trap, multiple times in my Twin Flame connection (like over 3 lol)

My Twin has talked about marriage multiple times (that's literally ALL I wanted). But I got in my head about it not being real because it didn't show up the way I was taught it would.

What's crazy is last year, I told him I love him and want to get married because he feels like home. He asked me why I didn't say yes the year before when he asked me to.

The reason? Because it didn't look or sound the way it was "supposed to." I didn't feel like he loved me, was claiming me, or wanted to be with me.

But.. he does. Because he is me. And I do love myself. Despite receiving a lot of conditioning not to.

Like parents who weren't present and blaming myself for it. Feeling like people never chose me. Feeling unloved in a karmic relationship.

Those are some deep wounds.

I'm curious what hers were.

I'll leave with this - your Twin Flame loves you (they are literally you) but nothing outsid e of you can make you feel worthy, important, or loved. No matter how much you want them to.

It's an inside job. And as you do the work, you'll start to see results in your Twin Flame connection.

-Tasha